September 18, 2014

Word: Spanking has a negative effect

Child Trends - Use of corporal punishment is linked to negative outcomes for children (e.g., delinquency, antisocial behavior, psychological problems, and alcohol and drug abuse), and may be indicative of ineffective parenting. Research also finds that the number of problem behaviors observed in adolescence is related to the amount of spanking a child receives. The greater the age of the child, the stronger the relationship.

Positive child outcomes are more likely when parents refrain from using spanking and other physical punishment, and instead discipline their children through communication that is firm, reasoned and nurturing. Studies find this type of discipline can foster positive psychological outcomes, such as high self-esteem and cooperation with others, as well as improved achievement in school.

In 2012, according to a nationally representative survey, 77 percent of men, and 65 percent of women 18 to 65 years old agreed that a child sometimes needs a ‘good hard spanking.’

One of the most frequently used strategies to discipline a child, especially a younger child, is spanking. About 94 percent of parents of children ages 3 to 4 in the United States report having spanked their children in the previous year.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

oh, fucking bullshit...
there is spanking that is no big deal, and there is child abuse which psycho parents call spanking...
*hardly* had many spankings in my childhood, but i can tell you i lived my life to avoid spankings, too...
REALLY, the HUMILIATION was 100 times 'worse' (meaning A VALUABLE LESSON I HAD YET TO LEARN), than any physical sting...
this is relegated to the same category of busybody jerkoffs interfering with EVERYONE else's life, simply because they can, and 'we' let them get away with it... akin to the nosy parkers who clutch pearls when hearing about a kid playing OUTSIDE (OMG! does anyone SANE do that anymore? *snort* of derision), or not having a damn a-dolt within arm's reach...
land of the milquetoasts and home of the pantywaists...
shit, when we were kids with bikes (our mother made us learn our times tables to 12x12 by heart before we could get a bike), we were halfway across the county without anyone knowing where we were; we were out ALL DAY, EVERY DAY during summer, ALL OVER THE PLACE, to the park, to the railroad tracks, to the candy store, to the school playground, to the local university, to the grocery store...
NOBODY knew where we were or what we were doing, and it was INCREDIBLE, IT WAS SOME OF THE BEST TIMES OF MY LIFE, it was the very essence of FREEDOM...
cheese and crackers, its a miracle any of the hothouse flowers we are raising can manage to tie their own shoes...
QUIT BABYING BABIES, so they can grow up...

Anonymous said...

4:35

Just because you survived your own spankings doesn't mean they were good for you. Your post is a perfect example of how spanking harmed you. Obnoxious with shouting, mostly off topic, without reason, just like a spanking.

My father spanked me occasionally, often for misunderstandings or things my older brother did to get me in trouble. The only thing I learned from those spankings was that my father was an asshole, and he liked my brother better. I loathed him by the time I was 8, because of the humiliation and disrespect he treated me with. Spanking and the threat of spanking were part and parcel of how that loathing started and grew.

Which develops a better adult? Someone who was subjected to physical violence for arbitrary reasons, and treated like property, or someone who is talked to and solutions are negotiated, or the rules are laid out with compassion that respects the child. I got the first, and my own child got the latter. My daughter is way more mentally healthy as a young adult than I was.

While "a spanking" is often thought to only be about the moment the hand hits the butt, the truth is spanking is a symptom of bad and inept parenting. When a parent spanks a child, they are treating that child as property and not a human being. If a parent cannot deal with their young child in a rational form, and must resort to physical violence, that parent has failed as a parent.